The core of ADHD coaching revolves around the following:
When we are coaching the client, regardless of age, there is a shift from traditional life coaching to a more directive approach. It is important to remember, as we discussed, that although our clients with ADHD and LD need additional support, the agenda remains the client’s agenda. The focus of the coaching remains in the hands of the client and the goals are the goals that drive the client, not the coach. For example, if you have a client who wants to make friends, you, the coach, ask the questions:
- What would it be like for YOU to have friends?
- What does having friends mean to you?
- If I were your friend, right here, right now, what might you say to me?
- Tell me what you notice in other kids when they are playing with friends?
- What might YOU do to connect with another kid and develop a friendship?
This is one example of how we can using coaching questions to elicit thoughtful answers from children, whether they have ADHD or not. The process involves the parents more than coaching teens and young adults and it works!
Want to learn more? Join us in March for Coaching Children With ADHD.