Coach of the Week – DeShawn Wert

How I Got My Neighbor to Clean My Fridge

You heard me. My neighbor came to my house so I could clean my fridge…

What incredibly persuasive skills did I use to entice her over to my house, you may be wondering…

Is she my paid cleaning lady? I wish!

  • Do I have a deep secret on her that she doesn’t want her husband to find out and I’m extorting her? Absolutely, not.  (They are lovely and wonderful people.)
  • Is she some kind of clean freak with a mission to purge the world of dirty fridges? Nope. I don’t think so.

She is a kind, generous person whom I like and trust wholeheartedly.  We also have a hard time finding a time of day we can get together because of life’s busy schedules.   So I asked if she’d like to come over one day and visit while I cleaned my fridge.  She said, yes, and I found a body double who would help me get started on a project that I had been putting off for over three months.

This underused strategy, called body double, is an excellent way to accomplish boring and mundane tasks (a real form of torture for ADDer’s) if you lack focus or getting boring tasks done.  Let me tell you what it is and is not…

  • It’s not someone ‘standing in’ for you getting your work done for you, that is your responsibility.
  • It’s not someone telling you “how” to do your task, you can do this by yourself but they are there for encouragement.
  • A body double is a person who will sit with you and do something else (talk, read, or work on an unrelated task) in the room while you finish the task.

Check out these hyperlinks to Additude Magazine that describe when and how to use body doubles with ADHD:

When You Need A Body Double

33 Ways to Get Organized with Adult ADHD

So remember the next time you are procrastinating with an item that you need to accomplish but just can’t seem to get done, remember your body double is out there…You just need to find her!

About DeShawn:

DeShawn VanDeWater-Wert, learned ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) can affect adults as well as children when she was diagnosed with the disorder late in life. “It allowed me to recognize and develop my own action plan and leverage my strengths,” she says. It also allowed her to become an expert in that field. With a Bachelor of Science degree in early childhood education from Purdue University, a Master of Education degree in curriculum design plus administrative certification from Indiana Wesleyan University, she has presented at the International ADHD coaching organization and was contributing expert for Laurie Dupar’s best-selling book, “More Ways to Succeed with ADHD.” A resident of Sweetser, Indiana, she developed training for at-risk high school students moving on to college for in Grant County. After years of teaching in public schools and her ADHD diagnosis, she launched a business of her own,“Your ADD Answers Coaching and Consulting,” in 2013. “I am able serve clients all over the world understand their own unique brain and how it functions for them,” she says. She addresses ADHD on her website and writes for ADD Student, a blog that supports parents as they work with schools in supporting their ADHD students.  Click here to find DeShawn in the JST Directory and connect with her.