Being Curious in Coaching

Curiosity. A word I enjoy using in my coaching and in coach training programs.  Get curious about another person and that person will be more likely to share information and fill in the gaps needed to move forward in school, work and in life.  Curiosity is a playful word, not pushy or intrusive.  Consider the following:

“What did you accomplish in school (at work) today?”

versus

” I am curious – what was your day like today?”

The first question asks for measurable data and the scoop on success and the lack thereof. The second question is one of wonderment and interest, leaving the door open for sharing by the client.  Notice that I did not ask HOW was your day today, because that allows the possibility of a single word answer – “fine”, “lousy”, “OK”, etc. Both questions above could be followed by, “Tell me more” or ” Would you be willing to share more details?”  Curiosity at work once again.

So, let me ask you a question:

What steps might you take to become more curious with your clients, your children, your students, your co-workers?  How might shifting your language to embrace curiosity change the answers you receive?

As always, I appreciate feedback and suggestions.  Let me know where your curiosity takes you this week!

Jodi Sleeper-Triplett
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Author: Empowering Youth with ADHD www.jstcoaching.com